#SelfCareChat: Tips

Life for me has been a little all over the place lately. From getting ready for the holidays, middle of the year testing for school, and daily life. I’ve been feeling out of focus and needed to be reminded of why I began myself care journey. In the video below I share a few of my go-to self-care tips.




Natural Kids: Brielle’s Hair Regimen

I’ve been asked a few times what products do I use in my daughter’s hair/ what is her current hair routine. Let me start by saying I am not a professional or anything, this is just what works for my daughter’s hair. Some of these items and ideas may not work for you and that’s ok. It took a very long time for me to get to where I am with my daughter’s hair regimen, so hopefully this list can help someone improve their own child’s hair care. With that being said, today I’d like to share a few essentials from my princess’s current hair care routine.



Shampoo & Conditioners:

I wash Brielle’s hair every 2 to 3 weeks depending on the style. My go-to shampoo is Creme of Nature Ultra Moisturizing shampoo, I grew up using it and love the way it makes her hair feel. Sometimes I may switch it up and use Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl/Shine Shampoo.

For conditioner I use Creme of Nature Moisture Extreme conditioner, and I also deep condition Bri’s hair at least once a month with Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint deep conditioner.


Leave-In Conditioner & Detangler:

Ok, I will admit I’m not a big fan of leave-in conditioner; it weighs Bri’s hair down so I don’t use it very often. However, detanglers are my ish because she has REALLY thick hair just like her mom and her shrinkage is insane. My favorite detangler is Silk Elements Curly Cuties spray since it adds a good amount of slip to her hair, making her curls easy to comb and eliminating painful hair combing breakdowns.



Before styling or blow drying her hair I add a little of Mielle Organics Mint Almond oil to her hair and scalp.


Cream Moisturizers:

I recently started using Just for Me Hair Milk as a daily moisturizer when her hair is in puffs or twist and so far I’m loving it.


Bedtime Care:

Most nights Brielle will sleep with her silk bonnet cap I purchased from Sally’s Beauty Supply store. However, she’s a wild sleeper so it’s not surprising that by morning the bonnet has managed to become part of the lost and found in the area between her bed and wall. So some nights I may tie an extra silk scarf around her hair prior to placing her bonnet on.


I did my best to narrow down the most important ideas and products I use in her hair regimen. None of these products are set in stone because I may switch things up based on her hair needs, seasons, and sometimes I just like to try new things. Feel free to tell me your must-have hair products In the comment section .



The Glow Up: Fall Skin Care Routine

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Skincare 101 is in session loves!! Today I’m sharing my tips for radiant skin. Let me start by saying I am not a PROFESSIONAL, my degree is in education but I have always been a fan of proper skin care. Here’s a little run down about my skin: I have combination skin depending on the season my skin may be oily in some areas and dry in others. I am human so I do get the occasional breakouts due to stress, monthly cycle or sometimes my skin has a mind of its own and likes to get disrespectful. In the video below I share my current skincare routine. Leave me your favorite skin care tips in the comments  and don’t forget to follow me on Instagram: @beesosimple  for more updates.



MommyMode: H4HGirls Doll Review

With the holidays right around the corner it’s time to start thinking about what to put under the tree for the little ones. My squishy little baby girl has grown into a full-blown sassy and imaginative preschooler, and one of her favorite things to do is taking care of her baby dolls. So, when I was contacted by Heart For Hearts Girls to review one of their dolls I knew she would love the chance to add to her little toy family.

Here’s a little about Hearts For Heart Girls:

   (via hearts4heartsgirls.com)

Hearts For Hearts Girls was created to make a difference—for girls who play with dolls, for girls who care about others, and for girls around the world who face difficult challenges in their lives.

Brielle was sent Rahel; she is a beautiful 10-year-old from Ethiopia with vibrant traditional clothing and a crown full of natural-style soft curls. The first thing my daughter notice was Rahel’s curls while exclaiming, “ She has a big hair like me!” As a black parent, I love seeing positive images that my daughter can relate to because representation truly matters to young minds. One of our favorite things to do with Rahel was to try out different hairstyles. Since Rahel has much curlier hair  than some of the other dolls it is best to finger comb her hair instead of using the comb included in the box. My daughter’s favorite style is putting Rahel’s hair in two big puffs similar to her own.

We had fun playing with Rahel’s hair

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Each doll comes with a heart charmed bracelet and mini book about her life. This book tells the story of Rahel’s life, family, and aspirations in Ethiopia along with explanations about real world issues she and her people face. For example, there is a portion of her story which explains how malaria is a big problem in her village and because of this her mother traveled to the capital city of Ethiopia, Addis- Ababa, to be trained in medicine to help her village. I thought this was a beautiful thing to include with the doll because it gives insight into the lives of other little girls whose stories may be similar to Rahel’s, teaching our kids empathy, compassion, and understanding.

Along with spreading the message of empowerment for girls and celebrating diversity, Hearts For Hearts Girls also donates a portion of each doll’s purchase to World Vision global humanitarian organization. World Vision uses its donations to help children in need around the world. HFHGirls Dolls are the perfect gift for any young girl by showcasing diversity, culture, uniqueness and reflecting their company’s mission statement “Change the world, One heart at a time.”

To my mommy friends, these dolls are a must have under your Christmas tree this year! Be sure to check out hearts4heartsgirls.com or their Facebook Page: Hearts For Hearts Girls.

Doll Facts:

Available in Target, Amazon, and specialty retailers.

Rahel — Ethiopia

Consuelo — Mexico

Nahji — India

Dell — USA

Available only on Amazon or specialty retailers

Tipi — Laos

Lauryce — USA (she’s from New Orleans)

**Lilian — Belarus is currently unavailable**


“Thanks Hearts For Hearts Girls for the doll!!!”- Brielle



Natural Kids: Protective Hairstyles

Hey Loves,

School is back in session in our household. I will be heading back to the classroom for another round of preparing the little minds of the future while my daughter is making the jump to Preschool. Like many of you reading this, our mornings are a whirlwind of trying to get dressed, grabbing a bite to eat, and finally getting the family in the car so that I can be at work before 7am.

Since Bri’s hair is growing like a weed and requires a little more work to style and manage it, protective styling has become my best friend. My go-to style for her has been braids and beads lately. I will admit I’m not an expert braider…I just learned how to braid 2 years ago lol. But thanks to Youtube University I have learned many techniques to help me with protective styling.

I love for little girls to look like little girls. Meaning for my 3 year old daughter I choose appropriate styles that reflect her age. She’s a kid who loves to flip, run, and climb on everything so I make sure she has a hairstyle that can adapt to all of her craziness. I know I’m not the only mom searching Pinterest and Google for hair inspirations, so below are a few of my favorite protective styles and video links that can help hair beginners and vets.



(My BriMonster)

Two Strand Twists

Mohawk Puffs 

Protective Styling Videos




MommyMode: Parenting Labels

I hate mom titles! Seriously, they make my skin crawl. But in the parenting world where there are numerous “sub-categories” or labels, you can’t help it when others try to place you in a box. Above all else I loathe the stay-at-home mom versus the working mom discourse. My first experience with this trivial topic took place in my then 4 ½ month old daughter’s Gymboree playgroup. As an icebreaker each family went around the room introducing themselves and their little one, which normally included occupations as well, and out of the 9 couples there I was the only wife who was a working mom. Of course, a few moms asked me, “How do you go to work every day…Don’t you miss your little one…I could never work with my child being so young?” Internally I’m screaming “Yes I miss her all the time!!! I freaking broke down sobbing when we had to drop her off the 1st day of daycare and almost had a complete meltdown at work when I forgot to have my OB sign off that I was cleared to return to work!”  


For about a month afterward I felt so guilty going to work and leaving my precious baby girl at daycare. During this time I started to doubt myself as mother/wife, but I had a sorely needed confidence boost when my daughter got sick for the first time. Here I am balancing teaching twenty-five 1st graders, tending to a cute kid with a scratchy cough and horrible chest congestion, and my relationship with my husband. In that moment it didn’t matter if I was a SAHM or working mom, I was just a MOM. Being a parent is a 24-hour job with long days and nights. In my 3 ½ years of experience in this mommy game I’ve developed one main parenting rule: as long as my kid is healthy, happy, safe, and loved I must be doing something right. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter if you choose to stay at home or work as long as you tack “mom” to the end.


So the next time you see another mom at Target or at the playground give an encouraging smile because raising tiny humans is hard and we ALL are doing an amazing job.