If you have followed my blog for any time now, you may have noticed that I make it a priority to encourage my daughter to love and accept who she is and what she looks like. Many young females, especially girls of color, grow up with such a negative view of themselves that it leaks over into adulthood, creating completely avoidable self-esteem and self-worth issues. So, anytime I am offered a chance to review a children’s book such as My Hair Is Poofy & That’s Okay by Nikkolas Smith, I jump at the opportunity to continue exposing my child to positive literature. With its beautiful and unique illustrations, relatable storyline, and overarching message of embracing your self-image, this book will be a mainstay in my daughter’s library for a long time.
Kids are very smart; they notice how you dress, speak, or what books you’re reading. Ever since I was blessed enough to become a mother, the phrase “Representation matters” has become so much more meaningful to me. Young minds need to be exposed to literature and characters they can relate to, and Poofy is definitely one of those characters. She has a big personality, self-confidence, and a massive crown of thick curly hair which my daughter loved. The illustrations are amazing with vivid colors and brush strokes, great detail in every character’s features, and a lightness that makes you want to keep turning the page to see how great the next one will be.
The importance of being unique is displayed throughout the book, but I love the fact that the story also highlights the idea of not letting others negatively label you because of your uniqueness. Although the story does jump around a little bit pertaining to the scenarios, there is always a positive and uplifting message being echoed by each of the characters. I am a mom to a brown skin girl with a head of thick curly hair and because of authors like Smith she is able to read stories and see images that look like her. It fills me with joy any time I am able to expose my little princess to a character like Poofy and hear her say “She looks like me!”
Over this past year I have purchased and had opportunities to review many children’s books for my daughter, but My Hair Is Poofy & That’s Okay definitely stands out as one of our favorites. If you are interested in purchasing a copy take a visit to author Nikkolas Smith’s website (https://www.nikkolas.art/shop/poofy) where he also has artwork, stickers, and other literature. If there are any other positive self-image children’s books you would like to suggest or share, feel free to leave a comment and I’ll see you all next time!
Life for me has been a little all over the place lately. From getting ready for the holidays, middle of the year testing for school, and daily life. I’ve been feeling out of focus and needed to be reminded of why I began myself care journey. In the video below I share a few of my go-to self-care tips.
I’ve been asked a few times what products do I use in my daughter’s hair/ what is her current hair routine. Let me start by saying I am not a professional or anything, this is just what works for my daughter’s hair. Some of these items and ideas may not work for you and that’s ok. It took a very long time for me to get to where I am with my daughter’s hair regimen, so hopefully this list can help someone improve their own child’s hair care. With that being said, today I’d like to share a few essentials from my princess’s current hair care routine.
Shampoo & Conditioners:
I wash Brielle’s hair every 2 to 3 weeks depending on the style. My go-to shampoo is Creme of Nature Ultra Moisturizing shampoo, I grew up using it and love the way it makes her hair feel. Sometimes I may switch it up and use Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl/Shine Shampoo.
For conditioner I use Creme of Nature Moisture Extreme conditioner, and I also deep condition Bri’s hair at least once a month with Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint deep conditioner.
Leave-In Conditioner & Detangler:
Ok, I will admit I’m not a big fan of leave-in conditioner; it weighs Bri’s hair down so I don’t use it very often. However, detanglers are my ish because she has REALLY thick hair just like her mom and her shrinkage is insane. My favorite detangler is Silk Elements Curly Cuties spray since it adds a good amount of slip to her hair, making her curls easy to comb and eliminating painful hair combing breakdowns.
Before styling or blow drying her hair I add a little of Mielle Organics Mint Almond oil to her hair and scalp.
I recently started using Just for Me Hair Milk as a daily moisturizer when her hair is in puffs or twist and so far I’m loving it.
Most nights Brielle will sleep with her silk bonnet cap I purchased from Sally’s Beauty Supply store. However, she’s a wild sleeper so it’s not surprising that by morning the bonnet has managed to become part of the lost and found in the area between her bed and wall. So some nights I may tie an extra silk scarf around her hair prior to placing her bonnet on.
I did my best to narrow down the most important ideas and products I use in her hair regimen. None of these products are set in stone because I may switch things up based on her hair needs, seasons, and sometimes I just like to try new things. Feel free to tell me your must-have hair products In the comment section .