“She’s sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.”
The quote above describes my daughter to a T. She loves to learn, expresses herself using creative outlets, and is completely fearless when it comes to jumping off of everything she sees. In a few days my daughter Brielle will be four years old, and while I’m still processing this fact, I am extremely proud of the kid she’s become so far. From the day I was told that there was a little queen growing inside of me, I knew I wanted to raise her to be strong. With this new wave of black pride sweeping across our culture, I am more confident than ever that even after she leaves the nest, my daughter will continue to flourish as self-confident black woman.
I’m still learning tips and trick along the way but here are a few of my favorites I’ve rounded up so far:
Let her create her own identity:
As parents we often have an idea of what we want our kids to be like; from sports to clothing we low-key always want some input. But around the time Brielle turned 3 we decided as parents to start letting her pick out her clothes or choose what activities she would like to participate in to help her build her own identity. There are still situation where we step in to make executive decisions(because wearing Jordan flip flops in 10 degree weather is not going to happen), but for the most part we give her space to be herself.
Surround her with positive examples:
My daughter made me a better person, so everyday I try to be a positive example for her in return. I also make it a goal to surround her with positive images with her books, clothing and tv shows, making sure she sees people that looks like her in a positive light. Representation Matters.
Raise a free thinker:
I want Brielle to always be a free thinker. It’s easy to get boxed in to society’s norms and feel the need to do what is expected of you. I’m raising my daughter to make her own choices, ask questions, give her opinion, and do things HER way.