“She’s sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.”
The quote above describes my daughter to a T. She loves to learn, expresses herself using creative outlets, and is completely fearless when it comes to jumping off of everything she sees. In a few days my daughter Brielle will be four years old, and while I’m still processing this fact, I am extremely proud of the kid she’s become so far. From the day I was told that there was a little queen growing inside of me, I knew I wanted to raise her to be strong. With this new wave of black pride sweeping across our culture, I am more confident than ever that even after she leaves the nest, my daughter will continue to flourish as self-confident black woman.
I’m still learning tips and trick along the way but here are a few of my favorites I’ve rounded up so far:
Let her create her own identity:
As parents we often have an idea of what we want our kids to be like; from sports to clothing we low-key always want some input. But around the time Brielle turned 3 we decided as parents to start letting her pick out her clothes or choose what activities she would like to participate in to help her build her own identity. There are still situation where we step in to make executive decisions(because wearing Jordan flip flops in 10 degree weather is not going to happen), but for the most part we give her space to be herself.
Surround her with positive examples:
My daughter made me a better person, so everyday I try to be a positive example for her in return. I also make it a goal to surround her with positive images with her books, clothing and tv shows, making sure she sees people that looks like her in a positive light. Representation Matters.
Raise a free thinker:
I want Brielle to always be a free thinker. It’s easy to get boxed in to society’s norms and feel the need to do what is expected of you. I’m raising my daughter to make her own choices, ask questions, give her opinion, and do things HER way.
I hate mom titles! Seriously, they make my skin crawl. But in the parenting world where there are numerous “sub-categories” or labels, you can’t help it when others try to place you in a box. Above all else I loathe the stay-at-home mom versus the working mom discourse. My first experience with this trivial topic took place in my then 4 ½ month old daughter’s Gymboree playgroup. As an icebreaker each family went around the room introducing themselves and their little one, which normally included occupations as well, and out of the 9 couples there I was the only wife who was a working mom. Of course, a few moms asked me, “How do you go to work every day…Don’t you miss your little one…I could never work with my child being so young?” Internally I’m screaming “Yes I miss her all the time!!! I freaking broke down sobbing when we had to drop her off the 1st day of daycare and almost had a complete meltdown at work when I forgot to have my OB sign off that I was cleared to return to work!”
For about a month afterward I felt so guilty going to work and leaving my precious baby girl at daycare. During this time I started to doubt myself as mother/wife, but I had a sorely needed confidence boost when my daughter got sick for the first time. Here I am balancing teaching twenty-five 1st graders, tending to a cute kid with a scratchy cough and horrible chest congestion, and my relationship with my husband. In that moment it didn’t matter if I was a SAHM or working mom, I was just a MOM. Being a parent is a 24-hour job with long days and nights. In my 3 ½ years of experience in this mommy game I’ve developed one main parenting rule: as long as my kid is healthy, happy, safe, and loved I must be doing something right. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter if you choose to stay at home or work as long as you tack “mom” to the end.
So the next time you see another mom at Target or at the playground give an encouraging smile because raising tiny humans is hard and we ALL are doing an amazing job.
I hit a parenting milestone: my once squishy, chubby face baby girl is now a 3 year old toddler. Even though she’s still a little body her eating habits have grown and grown each and every year. Between being more active at school (she’s in the big toddler’s room now, Yay!) and random growth spurts her appetite has increased to the size of a grown man. Lately I’ve noticed after school she has started asking for a snack to hold her over until dinner. In the past her post-daycare snack was gummy fruit snacks or crackers. However, incorporating healthier whole foods into my family’s diet has been a recent goal of mine so the junky food had to go. I always want to be the best role model for my daughter and one way I can do that is by making sure she starts learning healthy eating habits early.
Please be sure to follow my Pinterest page for more yummy recipes and don’t forget to post or share your after school snacks on Instagram with the tag #beesosimple!
Here is a cute recipe to get your kiddo’s ready for St. Patrick’s Day.
End of the Rainbow Cookie Parfaits
(recipe from tablespoon.com)
1 roll (16.5 oz) Pillsbury™ refrigerated sugar cookies
Red, orange, yellow, green and blue gel food colors
1 pint whipping cream
3 tablespoons sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
Heat oven to 350°F. Spray 10 regular-size muffin cups with cooking spray. Let cookie dough stand at room temperature 10 minutes to soften.
In large bowl, break up cookie dough; add eggs. Beat with electric mixer on medium speed until smooth and well combined. Divide dough evenly into 5 small bowls. Color dough with red, orange, yellow, green and blue food colors, stirring until well combined.
Scoop dough into muffin pans, making 2 cupcakes of each of the 5 colors, for a total of 10 cupcakes. Bake 15 to 18 minutes or until toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool in pan 5 minutes. Remove cups from pan to cooling rack to cool completely, about 30 minutes.
Meanwhile, in medium bowl, beat whipping cream, sugar and vanilla with electric mixer on medium high speed until stiff peaks form.
Crumble each of the cupcakes, keeping the colors separate. Sprinkle red cake crumbles into each of 12 glass parfait cups, glasses or small jars. Pipe whipped cream on top of each. Repeat process with orange, yellow, green and blue cake crumbles, finishing with the blue cake crumbles. Serve immediately, or refrigerate until ready to serve.
I’m starting the week off with a few of my goals/inspirations for the current moment.
Hey Loves the family is still sleeping and I’m up early searching Pinterest for some yummy breakfast ideas. Here are a few recipes I came across and want to share with my readers.
Blueberry Pancake Bites
Bacon Breakfast Cupcakes
Texas French Toast Bake
Cheddar Bacon Quiche
Snickerdoodle Milky Muffins
Sausage and Cheese Crescent Squares
Crescent Bacon Breakfast Ring
Sausage Breakfast Casserole
And If you are not following my boards on Pinterest here is my page!